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Monday, March 5, 2007

Introverts are welcome here!

This blog is dedicated to people everywhere who have 2 defining characteristics: 1) They are followers of Jesus Christ and 2) They are introverts. A few years ago, through a process of honest self-exploration, I discovered that I was an introvert. I knew that I had always relished time to myself and found social interaction draining, but for most of my life I thought something was dreadfully wrong with me. It was incredibly relieving to discover that, though I did wrestle with deeper issues of insecurity that were not resolved by a personality test, I was in fact normal and that at least 1/4 of the population dealt with the same things that I do as an introvert. I was motivated to find freedom in my introversion and also to help fellow introverts do the same. I have even been motivated to do some writing on this topic, especially in relation to the experiences that introverts have in the American evangelical church, which I think is largely extroverted in its bent. My hope is that this website can become a starting point for conversation about this topic and a haven for Christian introverts to find healing, community, and suggestions for navigating the waters of the evangelical sub-culture. I greatly welcome your comments, experiences, advice, and critiques that you have of what I say in this space.

The title, Introverted Church, is a somewhat tongue in cheek reference to a critique I read recently of the Church when it is not fulfilling its mission as witness to Jesus Christ. The author said this:

An introverted church, turned in on itself, preoccupied with its own survival, has virtually forfeited the right to be a church, for it is denying a major part of its own being. As a planet which ceases to be in orbit is no longer a planet, so a church which ceases to be in mission is no longer a church. In order to qualify for the name "church" we must be a community deeply and constantly aware of our "sentness," and actively loyal to this part of our Christian identity.

This quotation, from the pen of a prominent evangelical theologian and preacher, reveals a common misunderstanding that says introversion is bad, self-centered, closed off, and pathological. The subsequent description of the church in that quotation would indeed be a distortion of what Jesus had in mind when he chartered the Church, but to call it "introverted" is only to reinforce the stereotypes that externally and internally plague people who are properly and healthily called introverts. When God "fearfully and wonderfully made" each person, he was pleased to create 1/4 of the population as introverts, and we have great gifts to bring to the Church and the world.

12 comments:

  1. Hopefully you don't mind an extrovert like me reading your blog. I'll try to contain my extrovert tendency to immediately comment on everything and anything I find interesting. :)
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  2. Adam your site is a God send.
    As a fellow introvert who is about to head off to seminary the primary stumbling block I have is mixing my desire to minister with my need for "me" time.
    I've had a chance to read a few of your posts but I'm looking forward to reading them all.
    You're preaching to the choir here!

    Thank you for doing this blog, it really will make a difference!
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  3. Introverted layperson here. Passing the peace makes me want to hide! :)
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  4. Those of us who are introverts tend to love and need people, but in small and measured doses.

    I've seen it suggested more than once that those of us who aren't gregarious by nature, who don't plunge with abandon into the after-service coffee chitchat and who don't have 100 best friends at church, don't "love the brethren" and therefore may not in fact be really born again. The implication is that you can't be a real Christian and an introvert.

    I trust this site will forever put to rest such notions.
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  5. January 11 Anonymous here again.

    I thought about the subject some more.

    While I am a hard-core introvert, I have to admit that some extroversion is essential to the Christian life.

    As Christians we are called upon to grow more like Jesus. he must increase, and we must decrease.

    Jesus, as described in the Gospels, was a perfect blend of extroversion and introversion. He drew large crowds to himself and interacted with them. He spoke continuously with his disciples, with the Pharisees and scribes, and with the throngs of people who came out to see him.

    He was also a person who had to withdraw to a place of solitude for prayer and rest.

    Even (especially!) those of us who are introverted by nature will benefit from some time spent with our brothers and sisters in Christ.
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  6. Introversion can occur due to different circumstances,family backgrounds and so annd so reasons....But i don't think it is permanent...somehow,we must give it up in some moments in our lives.I am an introvert but i believe that God will surely change me for his purposes.Even moses is afraid of facing the people and to talk with them,but God changed him for his purpose.
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  7. vineeth - I am about 75% sure that Moses was an introvert, however I don't think that he was "changed" from an introvert to an extrovert, but rather he was transformed from an introvert who let his fears overwhelm him to an introvert who learned how to lead with power and authority, to embrace the gifts that God had given him. Fear is not inherent to introversion (fear or social anxiety is inherent to shyness, not introversion), and introverts can learn how to lead others and preach God's word to others. I have done it, as have countless others, but I have not ceased to be an introvert. I would encourage you not to try to become an extrovert, but to learn how to embrace the gifts God has given you as an introvert, and also to find healing from the fears which would hold you back from doing those things. I think my book will help you.
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  8. Always remember,the fruits of the Spirit include Self-Control, NOT Self-Expression.... ;-)
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  9. You can't become an extrovert or an introvert. It has to do with how your brain is wired. If I rememeber right from the book "Introvert Advantage", neurotransmitters take a different and much longer path to process thoughts and information. It's more complicated than that, you should read the book. However, the book does clarify that as an introvert you can practice extroverting, because sometimes it's necessary, and she gives tips on how to do that.
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  10. I don't know if you still read your old comments, but I've only just come to your blog, in the end of 2010, and decided to start reading it from the end. As an introvert who intends to spend her life in Christian ministry, I'm trying to achieve a balance between my love of solitude, rest, and personal study and my comprehension of how much work and externalness is involved in the Christian life. As much as I know I'd love to spend my whole life studying, reading, and writing, I don't think I'm called to be a monk in an abbey. I'd really like to fully understand how much of what we are taught about living an outward Christian life is influenced by extraverted America and how much is actually scripturally based. I'm hoping your blog will give me some insights!
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  11. Hi Emmet,

    I'm not sure anyone has ever read it from from to back like that! It is interesting to look at my old posts with your comments. And I hear you on much of what you said - I love reading and writing more than pretty much anything, and I could spend hours and hours doing that every day. But I know we are called to love people which we can't do unless we are actually around people. I think you'll find my book goes into much greater detail on these issues. I hope you enjoy it.
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  12. Introversion can occur due to different circumstances,family backgrounds and so annd so reasons....But i don't think it is permanent...somehow,we must give it up in some moments in our lives.I am an introvert but i believe that God will surely change me for his purposes.Even moses is afraid of facing the people and to talk with them,but God changed him for his purpose.
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Adam S. McHugh is the author of Introverts in the Church: Finding Our Place in an Extroverted Culture. He is an ordained Presbyterian minister, spiritual director, chaplain, speaker, and retreat leader. He has been published in The Washington Post, The Christian Century, RELEVANT Magazine, Psychology Today, and Leadership Journal, among other publications. He is a graduate of Claremont McKenna College and Princeton Theological Seminary. On February 28, 2012 he will serve as guest chaplain in the U.S. House of Representatives. He lives in Claremont, CA.

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